Against my better judgment I answered a post on Craigslist last week from a female singer. To cut a long story short, it very quickly became obvious that she was a flake, a time waster; she’d been in Nashville for three years, (she’d moved from Louisiana to pursue her singing career, which was a good sign) but she had had no professional photographs taken, no identity as an artist, and only one demo song (she sounded ‘exactly’ like Jewel, even CJ commented on that) and then lied. What’s the saying, be careful what you wish for? If someone shows an interest you should be knocking down their door – you only get out of something what you put in.
You are more than likely a dreamer if you’re in entertainment as a performer, be it a musician, singer, actor, and have aspirations, and that’s how it should be, but you have to have drive and hunger and be realistic and professional. Don’t play at it, don’t waste people’s time, or your own, keep putting people in awkward positions, people who feel they can’t say no to you, and keep going on about it for years without doing it, and I’m speaking from my own experience, no-one else’s.
There’s another saying, “You’ve made your bed, now lie in it”. We are solely responsible for decisions and choices we have made, and make. Life is a journey, a road, and we reach crossroads, perhaps one way clearly signed, but for the other road the signpost has been stolen, so destination unknown. Most of us take the safe road, where lives are mapped out and directions are clear. Sometimes we ignore warning signs, “Don’t do that!” and then we pay the consequences, and/or accept them.
When we’re young our whole lives stretch out in front of us. I look at my children and see their dreams and aspirations and see them strive to make them come true, which they are, but that’s because they have actually done something about them and not just talked about them, sat around waiting for someone to hand them their dream on a silver platter. Taylor has found his niche now with work and is so good at it, a natural. Courtney took a chance, moving four thousand miles by herself to take up an unpaid internship, which has now turned into a full time, well paid position with a small team who are probably the most successful PR firm in Nashville at the moment, working with the top artists. Bailey in the meantime is still finding his direction, finding himself! He is only fourteen though, an exciting time in life, I hope he chooses his path wisely, takes chances, believes in himself.
It’s the people with a vision, backed by that drive, who succeed; people with self belief, and of course talent, in whatever profession they choose. Talent will out in the end, always.